There is this crazy thing – the craziest thing, really – that seems to be gripping so many of us in the so-called “developed” countries. It’s this idea that the world owes us something; in some cases, it’s that the world owes us everything. The truth is, with very few exceptions and in spite of what Social Justice Warriors and similar community-organizing flunkies would have you believe, we aren’t owed anything at all. Life simply is not fair; it was never meant to be fair and it will never be fair, but there are those who want ever-so-much for you to believe otherwise.
Life simply is not fair — it was never meant to be fair and it will never be fair.
The difference between thinking and believing is stark and unrelenting. One requires facts, and reason, and logic, while the other requires nothing more than a wish; a fantasy; a utopian desire limited only by our imagination. A lot of time and effort has gone into establishing a belief system that will discourage the former while promoting the fairy tale that the world owes us something.
Some believe that, because our ancestors were treated poorly, we should receive some kind of recompense for that suffering;
Some believe that, because we are sensitive about certain words or phrases, every other human being on the planet should refrain from using them;
Some believe that, because we are confused about who we are, every other person should accommodate, nay, be complicit in our confusion until we work it out;
Some believe that, because we were too disinterested, or lazy, or just plain too stupid to participate in educational or vocational opportunities – the very first rung on the ladder to a free, independent and self-reliant life – that every other citizen who did participate and who is a contributing member of society should support us for the rest of our lives;
Some believe that, because we aren’t as smart, or good-looking, or tall, or as athletic, outgoing, or rich – pick one! – as other people are, it is okay to blame them for our own lack of drive, education, ambition or achievement;
Some of us believe that, because we are black, or brown, or anything but white, or are female, we should receive preferential treatment in the name of diversity & inclusion, even if we aren’t as smart, as experienced or as capable as a candidate who is white or male, and even though the point of diversity & inclusion has nothing to do with skin color or gender and everything to do with experience and abilities;
Some believe that, because we have an irrational, illogical fear of something, it should be taken away from every other person, in spite of their legal and basic human right to possess it, so that we might feel – but not be – safer;
Some believe that, because our own country is not as safe, not as wealthy, nor as rich with opportunity as a foreign country, it is okay to illegally enter that country, take a job, send our kids to public schools, partake in health and welfare programs and otherwise avail ourselves of all of the benefits of a foreign country without assimilating, without respecting the laws of that country and while sending money earned in that country back to their home country, and if anyone doesn’t like it they are racists.
Mostly, though, some believe that life – in all of its countless permutations – should be fair; that when it isn’t we should endeavor to make it fair; and that the best way to make it fair is to take the spoils of a life well lived – the rewards earned through hard work and determination, by the doers, the makers, the shoulder-to-the-grindstone movers-and-shakers who have played by the rules, gone by-the-book, and who toiled and slogged their way through every obstacle and stumbling block – and spread their wealth around.
“It’s only fair,” some believe.
I think it’s time to take a step back, and gain some much-needed perspective. Let’s ask the mothers trying to keep their starving babies alive in backwaters around the globe if life is fair. Let’s ask the people who face the threat of being blown up or beheaded because of their religious beliefs if life is fair. Let’s ask the parents who have a son or daughter fighting or killed in a war zone if life is fair.
Let’s ask the kid who was orphaned if life is fair.
Let’s ask the families of a police officer killed in the line of duty, or a firefighter who died saving someone in a fire if life is fair. Let’s ask the person who was born blind, or deaf, or mute if life is fair. Let’s ask the kid who was orphaned if life is fair. Let’s ask the man or woman who has spent a lifetime in a wheelchair if life is fair. Let’s ask those who sacrifice every single day so that their child or grandchild has enough to eat, has clothes on their backs, and are at school on time, every day if life is fair.
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Ask these people, and billions just like them, if life is fair; if the world owes them anything. They will tell you that life is, indeed, decidedly not fair. But, it is life. It is the most precious gift we could ever hope to receive, and sometimes it comes with strings attached and those strings can be nasty, brutish things; but it is life. Life is hard and painful and beautiful and wonderful and a million different things to billions of different people, but…it is life.
Life is not fair, but it is life.
Life may be a great many things but one thing it isn’t is fair, and if you believe that life can be made fair for some by doing monumentally unfair things to others, well, you just aren’t thinking.